Sunday, August 7, 2016

Of Formula, New Moms and Why We Should Mind Our Own Business.

     A few weeks ago I was out with Hunter and he was hungry so I went to a quiet spot and fed him. Another mom was also there directly breastfeeding her baby. Now I have nothing against this and I actually even gave her an encouraging smile. The problem started when she looked over at me, saw me feeding my baby with a bottle and felt the need to lecture me on the benefits of breastfeeding (which i already knew). At first I smiled politely and explained that what's inside the bottle was breastmilk. That shut her up for a bit but then she started questioning my choice to exclusively pump. Never mind that I have donated almost 4000 ounces to other babies in need or that both my children have been fed breastmilk. Never mind that she doesnt personally know me. This woman was judging me because the choice I made didn't coincide with hers.

     I almost forgot about that incident until the other day when Jim and I were out with the kids. We were lining up at a restaurant when this woman in front of us kept looking at Hunter. She smiled at me and then asked if he was breastfed. I said yes. She sighed then started telling me her story. She's a young mom of twins and she has been trying really hard to produce enough breastmilk for both of them. She had tried almost everything to increase her milk supply but according to her it's still not enough. She had to supplement with formula and i could see that she felt so guilty about it.

     Now heaven forbid  Mom 1 meets Mom 2 then decides to preach and give her unsolicited advice.  That might just push Mom 2 into Post Partum Depression. There are new moms out there who are struggling with breastfeeding daily and i know of several who are suffering from depression because of breastfeeding issues.  Most of them on the verge of losing their sanity because they feel that they are not doing enough for their baby.

     Yes I know that this is a complex issue but i have had it with this "breastfeeding is best" business. It's just so frustrating! Of course it is. We all know that. But we also  have to realize that without the invention of formula, BABIES WOULD DIE. That is a fact. I remember when Hunter had a very alarming case of breastfeeding jaundice and i had to stop breastfeeding him.  For those three days when I couldn't give him breastmilk, I was thankful that there was formula. So yes, breastmilk is good but a healthy baby is so much better.

     Also, what I don't understand is why some breastfeeding mothers feel the need to shame moms who feed their children formula. I mean, it doesn't make you any better or worse of a mother either way. (Unless of course you just want to brag and let the whole world know what an awesome mother you are. In which case, congratulations! *clap clap clap*) What matters is that your baby is fed, healthy, happy and loved.  Making other moms feel like crap, judging them  and having them endure so much undue stress just because their way doesn't fit your outrageous notion that there is only one way to feed a baby makes you (in my opinion) a shitty person. It really does.

    If we cant be supportive then how about we just all focus on our own babies instead?  Giving birth and raising a child is hard. Let's not make it any harder. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if you feed your child breastmilk or formula. Do what you think is best for your baby, your body and your sanity.

     Ugh i just hate these Mommy Wars.


Sunday, January 24, 2016

River's Favorite Chocolate Chip Cookie

     This Sunday, since the kids and The cHubbs were napping and i had nothing to do, i decided to bake cookies. That and the fact that my chocolate chips are going to expire next month so i really have to use them.

     Anyway, this recipe is River's favorite. It's actually the one found at the back of a bag of Hershey's chocolate chips but I tweaked it a bit.

     Here are the ingredients.

ignore the baking powder. haha

     Heat oven to 360 degrees.

     Combine 2 sticks of butter with 1/2 cup white sugar, 1/2 cup packed brown sugar and a teaspoon of vanilla. Cream together.

playing with Hunter while baking :)

     Add two eggs and mix.

     Slowly add in 2 1/4 cup flour, half a teaspoon of salt and a teaspoon of baking soda. Mix thoroughly.

     Add in 1 1/2 cups chocolate chips. Mix.

     Place in ref while you clean up.

     For the big cookies, use an ice cream scoop and bake for 10 minutes. Jim and I prefer them halfbaked. :) You can bake up to 15 minutes if you want them crispy.

     For the smaller cookies, i used a tablespoon and rolled with my hands. Bake for 8 minutes. These are for River and fully cooked but still chewy.

     Cool completely.

     Serve to your little cookie monster. :)


Sunday, January 17, 2016

Sunday Science Experiment: Fun with Goo :)

     This year, we decided to start introducing River to the fun world of Science by doing experiments with her. Last week we did "Cosmic Rocket" using a kit from a toy store with Vinegar and Baking Soda. We will be redoing that next week and i promise to post about it. 

     Anyway, for this week's experiment we made Goo. (or Oobleck from the Dr Seuss book). It's very easy. You just need CORNSTARCH, WATER, FOOD COLOR (totally optional), A BOWL and A TRAY.


     1. Pour the cornstarch in a big bowl. I didn't add water first. I made River touch and feel the cornstarch. This is because unlike flour, cornstarch has a different finer texture.

     2.Add the water slowly. By the way, if you're using coloring you should add it to the water. I'm really unsure of the exact ratio but i think i used a cup of water to two cups cornstarch.

"Mom do i really need to touch it?"

     3. Dig in and get mixing. River was very hesitant at first because she didn't want to get her hands dirty but with a little help from Jim, she did it.

     4. Have Fun!! Roll it in your hands. Watch it melt. Punch it. Let your hands sink in. 

we moved some of the goo to a tray and River tried punching it.  

she placed her hand on top and it slowly went in the goo.

formed it into balls and let it "melt" in our hands

     About an hour in and she's still playing with it.

     After your toddler decides that she's done playing, it's time for cleanup. If you're like us, goo will  be everywhere. haha  The dried up goo on clothes can easily be brushed out. The goo splatters on the table and on the floor can be cleaned up with a wet rag. We just washed our hands to remove the goo. IMPORTANT: According to the articles about this experiment, Don't dump the goo down the drain because it can get caught up in the pipes and it will be extremely hard to remove. Just put it in the trash. Or save it for your next experiment! :)

      For more info and explanation on this experiment, you can check Steve Spangler Science or Exploratorium :)

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Disney On Ice 2015

      I have to admit that we were not really planning on going to Disney on Ice this year. But then i saw my friend's post about her children having tons of fun so we decided to give it a shot too. 

     But first, tickets. Since we were late in getting tickets, most of the good seats were already taken. We were able to still get a good view but for a higher price. Note to self: next year book tickets ahead of time.

      Show starts at 5:30 pm. We came 15 minutes before so we can look around and get souvenirs/merchandise. Unfortunately, River didn't like anything.

Daddy and daughter

Checking out the stuff on sale

       Show is about to start...

     Opening Act featured Minnie, Mickey, Donald and Goofy..

Jim is having the time of his life.hahahahahha

     Then it was the cast of  The Little Mermaid :)

Flounder. with legs. :)

Didnt know mermaids can do this! 

     Afterwards was Tangled. This was what i liked most because River and I just loved the lanterns. ""I see the light" is also one of River's favorite songs.

     Then came a break. At this point, Miss River removed her jacket and refreshed her lip balm. 

     Next was Beauty and The Beast. 

       Finally, FROZEN!!!! Kids were screaming. :)

     The show ended with the appearance and performance of all the cast. :)

Love that the cast went to the kids and took photos with them.

     We went to Gateway mall after and she saw these standees so she asked me to take her photo with them.

Trying to imitate Mickey's pose.

     Even the banners outside. hahaha

     Overall, i have to say that i enjoyed it more than i thought i would. We will most likely be going again next year.